I am having a very tough time right now. The man whom I love is having anger issues that I can’t control. I am afraid for what will become of us. I am afraid for my children and fear is not an emotion I take with ease.

I’m so sorry to hear about your man’s anger issues. There is nothing you can do to control his anger and I am very glad to see you acknowledge that.

However, my biggest concern in your question is that you are afraid for your children. No matter how much you love this man, you cannot remain in a situation where your children are in danger. the best thing that you can do is find a safe place to take your children out of the situation and, if and only if you can do so without endangering yourself, talk to your man about the problem.

If he is aware that he has a problem and is willing to seek and work through counseling, then let him know you will love him and support him through it. to keep yourself and your children safe, lay down some ground rules first. Let him know that the counselor will be the one who finally decides if it is safe for your and the children to return to living with him.

I have known people with violent tempers who have been able to work through the anger management classes and completely turned their lives around, but it takes time and work.

If your man is not willing to acknowledge his problem and seek help for it, you really need to do what is best for you and your children. No matter how apologetic he is after an utburst, no matter how good it seems right after he apologizes you must be prepared for the worst.

Good luck and Blessed Be!