What if my boyfriend doesn’t really love me? What can I do?

Please help me! The websites like http://www.lovecalculator.com and stuff like that keep on saying that my boyfriend dosn’t mach me… I know they aren’t really true, but it’s stressing me out, what if he dosn’t love me realy? And questions like that keep popping in my head. What can I do?

You are not the first young woman to ask these questions, and even though I know it doesn’t help much to know you have lots of company, you will not be the last.  Every one of us suffers occasional doubts in our relationships.  What concerns me is where you’re getting your advice.

It is significant to me that you keep going to sites like LoveCalculator even when you say that you know that they aren’t really true.  This indicates to me that you have already had some doubts about whether you and your boyfriend are suited to one another.  If you had no doubts whatsoever, you’d be able to laugh this off and say, “Geez, these sites are obviously bogus!” 

So, maybe it’s time to take a mental and emotional step back from the situation, and figure out a couple of things.  First, why do you keep going to these sites?  Would a different answer ease your worry?  Somehow, I don’t think it would, as the seed has been planted.  Second, why are you worried that he might not really love you?  Has his behavior towards you changed, has yours towards him?  You may wish to ask your mutual friends if they’ve noticed anything different from either one of you; sometimes we’re too close to a situation to see the truths that are right in front of our noses. 

As far as what you can do about it…well, if you’ve managed to rule out obvious changes in either one of you, then you can refuse to entertain negative thoughts.  Whenever that question pops into your head, say to yourself (and MEAN it) “That is just not true.  I love him, he loves me.  Negativity, go away!”  If this does not work for you, AND there seems to be no problems between the two of you, AND you are a practicing Wiccan, you may wish to do a spell which banishes personal negativity.  If you try my first suggestions and they do not work, then please write back to me, and I will outline how to cast the Banishing of Personal Negativity spell. 

Blessed Be.

Rose Ariadne: Providing “Magickal” answers to your Pagan, Wiccan, Witchcraft spell casting questions since 2006.

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